Matthew 7:24-27, 24 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.26 And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. 27 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it (ESV).”
Fathers and future Fathers, you are the primary influencer in the home and God will hold you personally responsible for the spiritual condition of your family.
This passage is part of Jesus Christ’s “Sermon on the Mount” and leading up to this parable, Jesus talks about how your faith is an active faith. In this passage Jesus was telling a parable about the wise man that built his house on the rock and the foolish man that built his house on the sand. It’s obvious that Jesus is not talking about building codes. Using this vivid word picture to illustrate his point, the clear meaning of the parable is that wise people build their life on Jesus—the “Rock of Ages.”
1 Corinthians 3:11, 11 For no one can lay a foundation other than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ (ESV).
This passage shows how Christ should be the foundation of EVERY aspect of your life. Jesus Christ is talking about not only your life—but your home. I am afraid that instead of being grounded in Christ, many homes in America are “on the rocks”. To keep that from happening to you and those that you love—you need to make Jesus Christ the center of your home. A home is like a Solar System. The center, the great sun, holds the Solar System together. If it were not for the sun, the Solar System would fly to pieces—and unless the Son of God is put at the center of your home, it too, may fly into pieces.
Next, you need to nurture and protect your marriage. You see the enemy cannot kill a family without dividing the husband and wife, so that is where he puts his efforts. Divide and conquer. It’s obvious that Satan has declared war on the family. Research shows that 1 out of 2 marriages ends in divorce. In 1996, 40% of American households with children were maintained by women with no husband present.
Most of what I see wrong with our culture can be directly traced to the failure of men, particularly fathers, who seem to a run away from responsibility. Studies over the last 10 years have shown that the adolescent age ranges from 12 to 29 and it keeps widening. This shows that more men want to stay “boys” instead of being men.
One Woman Man
Gentlemen, in short, you need to be what I call “A one woman kind of man”. Marriage is a divine bestowal that takes a man and a woman and makes them one. All through the Old and New Testament, marriage is exalted as the very highest of relationships. In Ephesians chapter 5, Paul compares the love that a husband has for his wife to the same devotion that Christ has for his Church. Hey guys, Christ died for His Bride. You see, a “One woman kind of man” would die, give his all, for his bride. Ask yourself: (1) Are you committed to your marriage? A commitment is your personal guarantee that you will do what you promised on the bases of a choice, not how you feel. (2) Are you a promise keeper? Or did you just get dressed up in a rented tuxedo and stand in front of God and a bunch of friends and relatives and mouth some worlds because the preacher told you to “repeat after me”?
There is an epidemic of staggering proportions sweeping across America—and I’m not thinking of politics. I’m thinking of Adultery. Remember that one? It’s one of the “Thou shalt nots” in the 10 Commandments. What’s strange is that we don’t call it “Adultery”. In America, adultery is now called by sophisticated or dumbed-down terms such as: hooking up, an affair, a fling, or an indiscretion.
Lets cut the double talk—lets put the cards on the table. Satan has declared war on your family and in that war “Adultery” is the weapon. When a man leaves his wife and children for another woman and acts as impulsively as an aroused teenager on his first date—it’s not as affair—it’s Adultery. You see, a “One Woman Kind of Man” is ALWAYS faithful.
Be the Godly Example
If you believe that the role of a father is essential in the life of a child—you would be right. He is to nurture his children by giving them: instruction, encouragement, guidance, friendship, companionship, assistance, love, training, and discipline. He is also to model the Christian Life for them. I’ve got a question for all you Fathers: “If not you, then who is going to be the Role Model for your children?” Our society has a noted absence of positive role models.
If our children are to be saved from the moral dilemma into which our society is sinking, Fathers are going to have to take their God-given place in the home and muster the moral courage and appropriate the spiritual strength to lead their families by example. Many fathers are good at lecturing and preaching to their children, but they are not good at setting a daily example in front of them.
Listen to me; this may be the most important thing I say. Children don’t learn much form the lecture method, they learn by observing and imitating Mom and Dad. Manners, morals, and ethics are caught, not taught. If you want to produce a rebellious child, then tell them what’s right and then don’t live it in from of them.
Like it or not, the Father is the divinely ordained minister of the home and men it’s your responsibility to see to it that your entire family is faithful in serving and being involved in the local church. When you are not serving in a local church it sends a message to your children that church isn’t important and when they grow-up they will also see church as unimportant or may leave the church all together.
In summary, you need to build your life and your home on the Rock—Jesus Christ. God is looking for men who have a desire to become a Christian Role Model for this disintegrating generation. Men should be characterized by: (1) an unwavering commitment to their wife, (2) a willingness to get involve in the lives of their children, and (3) a gut-level desire to follow hard after Jesus Christ. And with God’s help, you can make a difference in the war Satan has declared on the family. The choices that you make with your family today will determine the quality of life in your family tree for generations to come. That’s why one man can make a difference.
Sermon by Martin Amerson